If one more person tells me how to celebrate my retirement I may have to hurt someone! Seriously people, it’s my retirement so why does everyone else keep projecting their wants onto me and telling me I should take everyone in the department out for drinks, have the entire department out for lunch, have a retirement tea or a big party at a hotel? Pardon?!?!
I suppose they mean well since they want me to celebrate the event but they just can’t seem to wrap their heads around the fact I’m not a big party kind of guy. I’m more of a low key celebration type of guy and as such I’ve already decided my retirement celebrations will be modest. There will be no epic party, huge guest list or flashy celebration. I will not be inviting the media to attend.
Instead, what I actually have planned this next week is just two events. The first is I’m going out to lunch with my immediate work group of eight people at a restaurant a block away. One last lunch with my co-workers to celebrate with those that I work the most with. I actually have no desire to have the entire department come as it may come to a shock to some people but I don’t like everyone that is in my department so I would rather not have them there.
The second event is also low key. Just dinner at home with my wife and sons. I will even be cooking that supper because I want to eat an old favorite recipe, pepper steak, that I haven’t made in years. Then afterwards I’m going to open the 18 year scotch that I bought for this event and have a drink of a liquid that is older than my engineering career. That’s all folks. Like I said, modest celebrations.
Why? Because that is what I want. You personally might like a big party with lots of people, a big meal out, a nice trip or a grand party hosted at a hotel. Any of those are fine. The trick here is to know yourself and what you want and make that clear to the other people involved on what you will be doing.
It’s your retirement so celebrate it the way you want and don’t feel guilty for knowing what that is and being firm with other people around you. There is no right way to celebrate a milestone, just instead your way. So channel your inner dictator and feel free to tell others to piss off if you have to, but at least try to be nice about it to start with.
So how did you or would you celebrate your retirement?